It appears I have a new superpower - being able to get my needs met. How? By asking. That sounds ridiculously simple, but for me it's been a long and complex journey.
Posts from the ‘Self-Kindness’ Category
For an awfully long time, I believed that I could only be happy when I'd changed something about myself. Then, several years back I went through a bereavement which changed all the relationships in my life, not least the one I have with myself. Here's what I learned that helped me finally let go of self-attacking.
As a wellbeing coach and mindfulness teacher, I don't just share from the theory of mindfulness, but from my own experience too. Here's my own story about how mindfulness and self-kindness transformed my relationship with anxiety - from outright war, to acceptance and befriending.
Mindfulness is everywhere right now, isn't it? And I do worry that it could be turning into yet another thing that people feel they have to achieve. But life for most of us is hard enough without that burden. I'm beginning to prefer to use the word 'awareness' - it doesn't seem to carry the weight of expectation, there's more room for not getting anything right.
When I first learned about the 3 emotion systems, I wished I’d know about it earlier. Having experienced several years of high stress and anxiety, I could see how this knowledge might have helped me navigate such a difficult period. Here’s a brief introduction to what these systems are, and why they are key to balancing stress.