Aug 8
For an awfully long time, I believed that I could only be happy when I'd changed something about myself. Then, several years back I went through a bereavement which changed all the relationships in my life, not least the one I have with myself. Here's what I learned that helped me finally let go of self-attacking.
As a wellbeing coach and mindfulness teacher, I don't just share from the theory of mindfulness, but from my own experience too. Here's my own story about how mindfulness and self-kindness transformed my relationship with anxiety - from outright war, to acceptance and befriending.
When I first learned about the 3 emotion systems, I wished I’d know about it earlier. Having experienced several years of high stress and anxiety, I could see how this knowledge might have helped me navigate such a difficult period. Here’s a brief introduction to what these systems are, and why they are key to balancing stress.
At some point I stumbled across the idea of 'Love Mode vs Power Mode'. It made a big impact on me. I could quickly see how I operate from each mode in relationships with others. At work. As a parent. In close relationships.
It takes a massive amount of courage to accept feelings of loss and sadness, without trying to fix them - to open to them instead, fully feel them and let them transform you. At first I feared that turning towards these feelings would keep me stuck in them. But I discovered the opposite: it freed me to move forward, into something new and unknown.
